Friday, February 21, 2014

Love


Love



I was very recently consulted on relationship advice... I who have been single for the last ohhhh, say 45 years, was asked for relationship advise.  
What would ever give anyone an idea that I may know anything about a relationship???   I mean I have been single for most of my adult life, about 10% of the other time was in casual meaningless relationships.  The closest I have ever come to a committed relationship was when I was in court fighting a custody battle for my son. 

When I think of the relationships that have participated in I am always surprised as to why that relationship ever occurred in the first place. 


Why Be in a Relationship?  What are the levels of Love?

  1. Lonely - do not know how to be alone. 
  2. Horney - in it for the sex
  3. Bored - just doing it out of boredom cause it's too much hassle to break-up (perhaps they hooked up cause of 1 or 2).
  4. Lucky - There are those who are "Lucky in Love", where they were at the right time and right place and met their match, pretty much an idyllic love story - time will tell if it's going anywhere or if it will make it to the 5th level of real relationship status. 
  5. Truth - Those who are in a lasting committed life long relationship.  They actually love and enjoy each other's company. 
I have to say that the most I can tell anyone is:  "Are you settling?"  This was what one of the guys who I was in a relationship told me.  It sounded very cruel at the time and it was quite the pill to swallow, but it was truth. This was the end of one of my most passionate and powerful relationship experiences I had ever endured.  I realized that yep I was settling.  I could do better for myself, find a more better suited match.  That was 20 years ago, I am still single...


I don't even desire to be in a relationship.  I could care less at this point in my life...  But why? Why am I so effeferesence? that's not even a word, but it seemed to fit... 

I think that about sums it up, in a nutshell according to me.  But hey who am I to give relationship advice?  I am just a girl looking for a guy who can help me get something from the top shelf, so  a tall guy.  Then he can go... 


Wednesday, February 19, 2014

My Boy can Dance!!!!





Lakota my son in his Fancy Bustles a few years back...









I took the family out to a Much Dance last night.   I am soooooo proud of my son! He is a strong spirit who lights up when he hears and feels music! My son shines on a dance floor whether it be at a Pow-wow rockin his Fancy Bustles or at a DJ dance bustin his moves to Skrillix or who ever is moving his spirit.

I witnessed the power of positivity and white energy light with my son last night. He was centred out by a group of young men who decided that my boy's dancing was not to their standards, they began jeeriing and pointing and laughing at him. Making fun of him and basically ran him off the dance floor. That was the start of the dance...

My son came and sat down next to me and complained that he wanted to go home. I asked him what happened? he said nothing... I knew he was hurt...

I prayed... and began sending him light in a quiet way...

A few minutes later I asked him if anyone was being cruel to him? he said awww those boys are being bully's again ( they were previous bullies to him at his former school... The same bunch who instilled fear and tormented him all year to the point that he told me that he wanted to kill himself if he had to go back!)

I asked him what do you need to do? He replied " go home" .... I said oh but we just got here? don't you want to dance with me? he laughed and said NO... your my mom! (Ok Ok so I am no longer cool :? )

Then I said well why don't you meditate and re-claim your energy, your letting them capture your spirit!!! So he looked at me and with a level head he said um ok! So he began to meditate (yes my 12 year old son meditates! he has since he was 2)

About 5 minutes later some really fast techno beats began and he jumped up and began to move!!! He began to dance. I watched him nervously, wearily like a mama bear laying low while my cub is in a honey tree ( waiting to save him from an impending swarm!!!) He dances... moving, twisting, stomping, and spinning!!! the song fades into another... he continues... I watch!

About 45 minutes go by he comes and sits every once in a while to catch his breath and get a drink...

Then he goes out again... then a dancer comes and challenges him by trying to imitate his moves, my son spins and kicks a move and does some arm work, the guy backs off... My sis says... He's being challenged!!! I'm like huh????? (at this point I thought he was going to be physically assaulted, I am holding onto my chair to not go out and kick some kids in the butt!!! - my sis says calm down he will be ok!!! Watch him!!!! (I'm old school sometimes ok...)




My Son Lakota Today... still dancing!


So I know I'm aged because I was not aware of this but...I guess there is this thing in the world of techno where dancers challenge and do dance offs... my son got challenged about 20 times that night and each time he was the last guy dancing they all walked off cause they were not able to do his moves...

I'm a proud mama... my boy can really dance!!!!